I’ve learned a lot during my time as a life and confidence coach, and to be candid, much of it pisses me off.

We arrive on this earth unique and pure beings.

All too soon, societal conditioning is thrust upon us. From an early age we are told and taught how we should be and act.

By early childhood, the basis of our self-esteem, worth, and confidence are already formed. This takes shape from things we observe, are told, or experience. Unfortunately, at this age, our minds are not developed enough to question or challenge these beliefs, so we simply take them on as fact. And these beliefs, whether true or not, act as a guiding light for the remainder of our lives.

We spend an agonizing amount of time trying to twist ourselves to fit into boxes and shapes that we’re told we’re supposed to. The resulting emotional pain this causes is heartbreaking.  I cannot even count the number of women and clients who have shared with me “I never really felt like I fit in”.

These feelings carry over into all areas of our lives and essentially holds us back from reaching our full potential. Every time we want to step out of our comfort zone, the old beliefs rise up and pull us back in. Our minds tell us it’s not safe to step out. If you’ve experienced this, you’re not alone. In fact, our brains are wired to do this. As sophisticated as they are, our brains do not have the capacity to distinguish between real and perceived danger. This means the fear we feel when stepping out in front of a car is similar to what we feel at the idea of being vulnerable or doing something like public speaking.

The truth is we’re not meant to be like anyone else. We are each unique beings, with unique experiences that shape us, and unique gifts and talents.

The good news is that we can change all of this. We can reprogram these negative, false beliefs and ‘unlearn’ the societal conditioning we’ve been taught to emerge as our true, authentic selves. We can strip back all of these layers to uncover who we were meant to be in the first place.

I’m not saying it’s easy. In fact, it takes a lot of effort to undo decades of conditioning. But I know it’s possible because I have done it myself and I have helped others do the same. And I would love to help you uncover who you really are.